Strategies to Resolve Disagreement: Part II

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Strategies to Resolve Disagreement: Part II

Couples need to fight with the end in mind. So, what should the end in mind consist of? The end in mind should focus on resolving the issue and simultaneously ensuring your partner feels good during and after the conflict. Both partners must control their stubbornness. Couples should practice calming techniques, meaning they should pay attention to their heart rates. When we have a heart rate above 90 to 95 beats per minute, we are emotionally flooded and have difficulty being rational in arguments and are in a state of fight, flight, or freeze. When we are flooded, we should pause or take a time-out for 20 to 30 minutes from an argument and then resume discussion to resolve the conflict. When we are upset or furious, we shouldn’t dispute with our partner or discuss critical issues with them because we will unavoidably say or do something that we would later regret, just like we shouldn’t punish our kids when we are upset or angry. Most essential, if you need to take a break from a disagreement, do so, but return to the conflict as soon as possible. Keep an eye out for indicators of flooding, such as feeling overburdened, being unable to maintain composure during disagreements, desiring distance, and minor concerns growing into major ones. Take a break if you feel like you’re under water.

We have taken Markman and Stanley’s “Fighting for Your Marriage” Safe Talking Techniques and illustrated them. By using these methods, each partner can communicate uninterrupted:

1. Make use of a shared resource, such as a talking item (for example, a wedding ring or a photo of the family or the couple).

2. The item is alternately held by each individual, who likewise holds the floor, in turn.

3. The listener then confirms the accuracy of what they have heard by repeating it again.

4. After their partner has finished summarizing, the other person takes possession of the talking item and begins to speak.

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